How often do you find yourself vacillating between one of those two statements? We all do it. We swing between periods of time -- sometimes they're only fleeting moments -- of believing we can make our dreams come true to thinking it is totally impossible. Now I can hear some of you thinking, "but I don't even have a dream." I would argue, "Yes, you do." You dream about having a career you love or something different in your life or you wouldn't be reading this newsletter. You may not know exactly what it is that you want yet, but still you yearn for something better. That is the first step. But I digress ...

So why do we vacillate back and forth like this between "Yes, I can" and "No, you can't?" Well, why do we think negatively about anything? Okay, you are not supposed to answer a question with a question. But think about it this way...the mind grabs onto whatever information we feed it. If we took in a lot of negative thoughts over time about what isn't possible, then whenever we hear something that resonates with those old beliefs, we grab on to it like it's the truth. (rent the movie "What the Bleep.. " for a more technical explanation of this) Typically this all happens subconsciously so we are not even aware of it in the moment. You could be going along and everything is going great and then one thing goes wrong and you start to think, "I must have been crazy to ever think I could do this." And in a split second, all those good things you have accomplished just disappeared from your mind as you grabbed hold of that one negative situation and made it mean you should abandon your dream. Okay, I know none of you have ever experienced this. I certainly haven't. (grin) But just in case you do ...

So here is the yo yo syndrome. Something good happens in alignment with your dream and you exclaim, "Yes, I Can!" Something doesn't work out the way you wanted and you say or think, "No, You Can't," or you might tell yourself something like "I don't really want this dream" or a million other things to dissuade yourself from going forward.

So what should you do about it? Here are three suggestions:

• One of the Key Success Principles is Develop Your Resilience Muscle: Bounce Back From Setbacks. This is one of the most important skills you can learn and one of the key components of emotional intelligence. Because there will be some setbacks. And the bigger you dream, the bigger the challenges. While I love how the Dream Movie turned out, there were many challenges that came up in the production process. Luckily we overcame them. Additionally, my distribution center shut down just at the time that the Dream Movie was ready to be released. It put us on temporary hold, but then we went forward anyway and we manually shipped your book orders over the past week. So please excuse the handwritten envelopes. Now we are moving to yet another distribution center. Don't let the obstacles stop you. Learn to view the setbacks as temporary and move forward again. Keep saying, "Yes, I Can!"

• Another thing that affects us is "time." Sometimes we set deadlines in our mind for the achievement of our dreams. We think it should have already happened. Well, the truth is, often dreams take longer than we think to come to fruition, especially the big ones. So don't let the idea that "time is running out" stop you. All we have is time. We might as well keep pursuing our dreams as long as we are alive. What better way to spend our time on this planet.

• Lastly, it is essential to continuously feed the mind positive thoughts and information. Now when I say continuously, that means DAILY! When you find yourself focusing on the negative, shift it to something you can truly feel positive about. In addition, read inspirational and motivational success stories. Jim Rohn calls this "vitamins for the mind." I love that phrase. If you take vitamins, you don't take them once/year or once/month or once/week. You take them everyday. Well you need to take vitamins for the mind everyday also.

I try to read something positive everyday before I go to bed. It truly helps. This month try reading something positive or inspirational everyday and delete any negative sources of information from your ritual (yes this means the news). It will make a difference.

Enjoy this great movie J

http://www.thedreammovie.com/